All of my clients have some degree of fear of change. They wouldn’t be human if they didn’t. Some fears speak to us quietly, some loudly, persistently or in waves.
Fear is present because our brain wants us to be safe. It’s trying to protect us and keep us within our comfortingly normal zone, which is understandable, but not terribly helpful when it comes to improving – changing – our professional situation.
There is a 70-30 split
There is a pattern I’ve noticed in about 30% of my clients. This 30% are the most fearful, but they are not fearful as such, otherwise they wouldn’t have got in touch with me in the first place. In my Career Clarity Service, we examine levels of need for security, predictability, the need to know everything in detail and seven other professional drivers. After this initial service, clients in this 30% tend to go into what could be described as “Heightened Self-Awareness Hibernation” to process their learnings and “aha” moments. Every client has some degree of Hibernation (starting as low as one or two weeks) but for this 30% it can actually take many months.
Normally I keep in touch with my clients regularly from the first moment, but not with the 30% types. They literally disappear! Eventually, one of my messages will get a response. We speak and they share what’s been going on for them during this time.
I get a secret thrill each time a client casually mentions the strange and unexpectedly good things that have invariably “happened” – like magic – in their worlds during their Hibernation. As my clients begin to accept a different mindset and vision, their decision making, their conversations and their behaviours change accordingly. The benefits of this can be seen within the workplace, which is a welcome relief as it means that whilst they are looking for a new role, they enjoy their current role more.
Also during this Hibernation, the benefits can be seen outside of work in areas they had been neglecting before. The Clarity Service reboots people to “suddenly” become motivated to reach their full potential. They get clearer about the value they place on themselves as individuals, how they wish to spend their time, what they want to include and what they want to exclude in their life. Others are inspired to invest in a creative interest they’d forgotten to see as important.
The changes that take place on the inside enable changes to take place on the outside.
So, post-Hibernation, after the 30% have processed their fears and got used to the picture of their new futures and after they themselves have been changed, they eventually come back to me. Bolder, invigorated and more focused. Which is wonderful. I work with them again, this time guiding them in very practical ways to their new destination. Which may or may not be a change in career depending on the whole new landscape of their life. A few people stay in their role, but with improved salary, terms and conditions or more exciting projects and more relaxed working relationships. Most people take their next step towards something more exciting, that reflects who they really are.
Top Tip to Reduce Fear
Rather than ignoring your fears, listen ultra carefully to them. Get clear on what they are really really trying to protect you from. You will learn challenging truths that could serve you beautifully, if only you do something about them. Even my 30% dig deep, get ready to be proud of what they do for a living and then follow it through.
So the question is: how much do you want to allow these fears to shape your professional world?
If you are ready to tell me that you, not your fears, are going to shape your own future, why not Schedule Appointment for a complimentary 20 minute phone conversation and tell me about your situation? Read some client stories here: Client Reviews